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The Uncontested Divorce Process

The Uncontested Divorce Process

In Arizona you have the option for an “uncontested divorce.” Although a divorce is difficult for everyone concerned, an uncontested divorce offers the option to avoid circular arguments between the parties, a great deal of money spent and countless trips to a court. Especially, in situations when both parties can come to agreements on the outstanding issues needed to terminate the marriage. Read on to learn more.

The first order of business is to file a petition for a divorce. The forms differ depending on the county you reside in, but the Superior Court where you are going to file can be contacted for the correct forms. The party who does the filing is known as the petitioner and the other party is called the respondent. The petition needs to include the following:

  • Basic information regarding both parties and your child or children.
  • The agreements you have reached regarding debt and property.
  • Custody of the child or children.
  • Support of the child or children.
  • Visitation arrangements.

Once the petition has been filed and the payment fees made, there are two options, you can get divorced either by:

  • Divorce by default.
  • Consent decree.

Divorce By Default

Once the petition has been filed the copy of the petition must be served to the respondent. They have twenty days if they are in Arizona (thirty days if they are outside the state) to respond. If there is no response within this time limit, a default can be requested. As everything has already been agreed, the agreement will be ratified and following a sixty-day waiting period – the divorce order will be issued by the judge. The granting of the divorce by the court is known as a Default Decree of Dissolution of Marriage. The other party must be served with this decree within three days of receipt of the document. Both parties, in front of a notary, sign the consent degree, and then it must be filed at the clerk’s office.

Divorce By Consent Degree

Firstly, the papers must be filed, and the other party served as we mentioned above. Following a wait of sixty days from when the party has been served, both parties are required to jointly file a Consent Decree of Dissolution of Marriage. This sets out agreements regarding the following:

  • Basic information regarding both parties and your child or children.
  • The agreements you have reached regarding debt and property.
  • Custody of the child or children.
  • Support of the child or children.
  • Visitation arrangements.

This decree needs to be signed by both parties and witnessed by a notary and then file it at the clerk’s office. Once the judge has reviewed the document and signed it, it will become what is known as an order of the court. If both parties have had a child or children together, both parties will have to go to a parent education class once the petition has been filed but before the decree has been entered.

Source: Krause, Beth A. T. “Uncontested Divorce in Arizona.” Www.divorcenet.com, Nolo, 2 Dec. 2013, www.divorcenet.com/resources/uncontested-divorce-arizona.html.

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Divorce Without Court Appearance

Divorce Without Court Appearance

It is possible to get a divorce without making a court appearance. Let’s start with a definition:

  • Uncontested divorce: This is where the divorce and the divorce settlement has been agreed upon by both parties.

Of course, this does not mean there may not be disagreements between the parties it simply means the parties have come to an agreement without the need of going to a court and using a judge to provide resolution to issues that are outstanding. It should be mentioned at the outset some states require you to go to a judge as part of the divorce process. But even in those circumstances if you can come to agreements, the court case can be over very quickly. Remember, both parties can resolve everything between themselves or utilize what is known as Alternative Dispute Resolution. Read on to learn more.

Issue Resolution

If both parties can take the time to list out the issues that need to be determined and tackle them together, it is often very helpful and productive. Here are some categories to consider:

  • Custody of a child or children
  • Support of a child or children
  • Spousal or alimony support
  • Debt and property division

Once this has been agreed upon, a divorce lawyer can go over everything and assist with a Property Settlement Agreement. This usually includes the terms you have stated as well as any legal clauses. Remember, each party will need their own attorney for this process.

Mediation

Both parties can work on their difference with a professionally trained mediator. When meeting with a mediator and supplying the relevant document and information, you can then meet as needed so a settlement can be determined. Usually this does not cause as much stress and the sessions are often informal and attorneys are not a requirement, unless a party insists on one being there. The cost for the mediator is usually shared between the two parties.

Collaborative Divorce Process

Essentially, this is where the parties and their attorneys take part in what can be described as “four-way conversations” so an agreement can be obtained. Attorneys often have specialized training in this area. And if any additional expertise is required, that person, must be agreed on by both parties and adopt a neutral standpoint. This option is sometimes chosen by parties who are happier with legal representation in the proceedings. But the downside is you may have to start over if an agreement cannot be determined with new attorneys as most states do not permit attorneys to represent a party further should the negotiations fail.

Arbitration

When the parties want someone else to determine issues away from the standard court process when they are unable to come to an arrangement by themselves. The role of the arbitrator is to consider the outstanding issues and makes a determination. Note: this is not an option in every state. The upside is both parties get to choose the arbitrator and you can work on setting the times and length of the sessions. On the downside, the decision made is binding and final and you normally cannot appeal. With complicated situations an arbitrator can also become an expensive proposition.

Court Appearances

Even when divorce cases have been settled, a divorce complaint or petition must still be filed with the court to formally dissolve the marriage. In most states when the divorce is a “no fault” divorce for such matters as “irreconcilable differences” you may not have to attend court. There will be some documentation that will need submitting and this is frequently found on the website of the court. As long as everything is completed properly, the judge in normal circumstances will issue a final judgement. In states where a court appearance is mandatory, once the paperwork has been filed, you can inform the court clerk the case has been settled and they normally will give you a court date sooner. You will be with the judge for around a quarter of an hour to verify the reason for the divorce and go over the agreement.

Source: Pandolfi, Joseph. “How to Divorce Without Going to Court.” Www.divorcenet.com, Nolo, 30 Nov. 2017, www.divorcenet.com/resources/how-to-divorce-without-going-to-court.html.

Source: “FAQ.” Legalzoom.com, www.legalzoom.com/knowledge/divorce/faq.

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What Is A Legal Separation?

What Is A Legal Separation?

An arrangement ordered by the court, a legal separation is when married couples live apart from each other and lead independent lives. It is a popular option when the parties concerned are considering the future of their relationship abut also want to ensure financial responsibilities and other boundaries are going to be honored by both sides. In some areas, this is a necessary step in the divorce process. Read on to learn more.

Facts To Consider

  • The court may order specific obligations in the areas of finance, visitation of a child or children as well as custody of a child or children and support for a child or children.
  • Although legally separated there may be particular benefits there are entitlements too.
  • For some people spiritual beliefs and financial reasons as well as for the wellbeing of minor aged children may be a factor in obtaining a legal separation versus a divorce.
  • A legal separation is an agreement ordered by the court where the two parties have separate lives, and this means they usually live separately.
  • Legally separated couples can sometimes remain “insured” on the other person’s health, dental and vision insurance—check with your carrier before going this route.

How Does It Work?

There are many reasons for wanting a legal separation including:

  • Religious reasons forbidding divorce, whereas legal separation allows the majority of the benefits of divorce.
  • When the marriage still has the possibility of recovery.
  • Legal separation is sometimes best for a couple with minor aged children, promoting stability.
  • The retention of retirement and health benefits.

Some couples choose this route without a court order and many are embracing informal separations and no-fault divorce cases, making legal separation in a formal sense less common than it used to be. When the separation date arrives, the party’s ability to spend money from a bank account or credit card held in both names is limited – as well as bringing in controls over vehicles and property. Each party following the separation ate becomes responsible for their own finances.

Legal Separation Benefits

Once a couple have reached their tenth wedding anniversary certain future benefits may be contended with. When deciding to separate, the legal separation agreement may keep some entitlements of benefits intact. For example, those married to members of the military must remain married for ten years to benefit from the Uniformed Services Former Spouse Protection Act. Once married for ten years, it also means you can benefit from particular social security benefits. You may be able to draw a larger sum if you can draw the benefits of the social security retirements of your former partner. Nonetheless, there are time a legal separation is preferential to divorce. The separation may be temporary whereas a divorce is a permanent condition absent remarriage. It can also be used as a “last chance saloon” to save a troubled marriage. Legal separation also has the benefit of being less costly than a divorce and to go through the process before continuing with divorce can make the whole situation for a child or children easier to endure.

Legal Separation vs Divorce

Legal separation is a legal process that allows a married couple to live apart and divide their finances while remaining married, as opposed to divorce, which is a legal process of ending a marriage. Neither may feel like a great option. Still, understanding what each means can help. Your unique situation drives whether you should choose legal separation or divorce according to BestLegalChoices.

Source:

Mitchell Grant, Julia Kagan. “What Is a Legal Separation?” Investopedia, Investopedia, 29 Jan. 2020, www.investopedia.com/terms/l/legal-separation.asp.

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What Is Spousal Maintenance?

What Is Spousal Maintenance

Spousal maintenance, alimony and spousal support are interchangeable terms describing money that a spouse has been ordered to pay to the other party following a divorce. Read on to learn more.

Spousal Maintenance, Alimony and Spousal Support

Alimony are the monies paid by one party to the other during or after the process of divorce. Once it was known only as alimony. Awarded following a court order, its purpose is to maintain living standards the parties became accustomed to during marriage – it is now more often than not referred to as spousal support or spousal maintenance.

Alimony (Temporary)

This is alimony for a specific time. For example, if the divorce causes a party suffering from financial hardship, temporary alimony may be awarded until the party suffering the economic hardship can recover from a financial standpoint. Temporary alimony differs on its length depending on the state or jurisdiction you reside in.

Alimony (Permanent)

This is alimony to be paid until the one making the payments passes away or the party receiving the payments decides to remarry. In some cases, remarriage does not prevent alimony from being paid. For example, if the recipient is unable to work because of disability, the courts may decide the alimony is to be ongoing even if they live with or get married to a third party. However, alimony is non-taxable to the recipient party.

Alimony (Rehabilatative)

This may be awarded when a spouse needs help with college expenses or job training so they may return to a career (or indeed, initiate a career) following the divorce process. Thus, allowing a formerly dependent spouse to obtain the skills needed to assist them in financial independence.  These maintenance awards can range from 1 to 5 years typically.

Other Considerations

Every state has its own laws regarding spousal maintenance (or however the state refers to it as) but it is worth keeping in mind that individual judges (not a jury) have the right to use their discretion in a judicial manner when they determine such issues. Often, they consider the following:

  • Will earning power of a party be adversely impacted because they have a child or children to raise.
  • The contribution in the role of a homemaker the party may have made in the career of the other spouse.
  • The physical, emotional and mental well-being and age of each party.
  • The earning potential of both parties.
  • The duration of the marriage.  Marriages under 7 years usually do not even qualify for alimony and marriages of 30 years or more can sometimes generate a lifetime alimony award.

Add in those factors and others they judge may consider all factor in to how much will have to be paid. It is always a smart idea to address spousal maintenance issues during the settlement for the divorce. This offers the judge less power and leaves control in the hands of the two parties concerned insofar it was privately  arranged.

In Arizona

In Arizona, when a party is seeking maintenance from the other one of four things must be proven for them to be awarded financial maintenance.

  • The length of marriage was such the party is too great an age to be expected to become self-funding or to be able to work.
  • As the custodian of a child or children at a young age, the party should not be expected to work, and the spouse contributed to the education of the other party.
  • Appropriate employment to become self-sufficient is not available to the party.
  • The party does not have sufficient property to meet their needs.

Source: Meyer, Cathy. “The Different Types of Alimony, Spousal Support, and Spousal Maintenance.” LiveAbout, LiveAbout, 11 Mar. 2018, www.liveabout.com/the-different-types-of-alimony-spousal-support-and-spousal-maintenance-1102807.

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Divorce Certificate vs Divorce Decree – What is the Difference?

Divorce Certificate vs Divorce Decree – What is the Difference

Divorce documents can be confusing but every document you will read is important. For example, a court issues a “divorce decree” but your “divorce certificate” is issued elsewhere. Read on to learn more.

Divorce Decrees

A document originating from the court and is the final judgment in your divorce is known as a divorce decree. Information contained includes things like child support, spousal support, property division, visitation, custody and other relevant information to your particular situation. They are normally very comprehensive documents containing all the pertinent and agreed-upon information for your situation including the laying-out of any financial obligations the parties will have. A divorce decree may only be issued by a court – it must be obeyed by both parties and represents the judge’s legal decision.

If you elected to settle your case, the settlement will contain all the terms and conditions. It still represents the final judgement and is indicative of the fact the parties did not use the input of a court. This takes matters away from the judge. In cases, where the settlement is very one-sided, a judge may become involved to work on the settlement terms.

Getting A Divorce Decree Copy

Obtaining a certified copy of the divorce decree can normally be obtained the court clerks office. However, some locations place them in the office of the county clerk. In normal circumstances the divorce decree can only be obtained by their parties involved or their legal representation.  Once the divorce decree has been obtained, you will need to ensure both parties are obeying the terms of the decree. You will also want to make sure everyone is meeting their financial obligations. Once you have the divorce decree here is what you need to do:

  • Ensure the accuracy of the decree
  • If you have questions, speak to your attorney
  • Appeal immediately if following a trial, you are not satisfied with the decision of the judge
  • Change the terms of your will
  • Update your insurance policies with beneficiaries
  • Ensure the school of your child or children has updated information for who to contact in the event of an emergency
  • If you have a power of attorney, ensure it is changed
  • Ensure all financial accounts are only in your name
  • Change or cancel debit and credit cards
  • If the other party is violating the terms of the decree, bring them back to court
  • If child support or spousal support needs to be updated, bring the case back to the court.

Divorce Certificates

This is not the same as a divorce decree. It is a certificate issued by the bureau of vital statistics or the health department of the state you live in. This document states:

  • The fact you are divorced
  • The names of both parties
  • The date and place of the divorce

A divorce certificate may be used for obtaining a change of name, evidence of a divorce, obtaining a visa for travel, obtaining a passport, to show you are no longer marries for the purpose of inheritance, to get married and any situation when you need to show evidence of your divorce.

Source: “Divorce Decree vs. Divorce Certificate – What’s the Difference?” Legalzoom.com, 26 Sept. 2019, www.legalzoom.com/articles/divorce-decree-vs-divorce-certificate-whats-the-difference.

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What Is A Divorce Decree?

What Is A Divorce Decree

A divorce decree is the final document in the marriage termination process. It states the judgments and finals rulings of the court and is an official judge signed document. Although every decree is different, the decree has the role of detailing the duties and rights of the parties involved in the divorce case.

Obviously, the importance of divorce decrees cannot be understated because until the decree is issued the process of divorce has not been completed. In circumstances when they are not completed there may be issues with the post-decree possession of property, taxes, debt as well as other legal rights that need to be addressed.

Divorce Decree Contents

Divorce decrees often include:

  • Property division agreements
  • Alimony or spousal support obligations
  • Child visitation, support and custody details
  • The financial commitments for both parties

They typically also include the date the decree is effective as well as naming both parties as well as the case number for future reference.

Appeals And Modifications

In the normal course of events, divorce decrees are legally binding for both parties upon issuance. There are, however, some circumstances where a modification motion or an outright appeal may be applicable:

  • A modification may be available for certain issues such as custody rights, visitation or financial support obligations. In the majority of cases, property divisions cannot be modified further.
  • An appeal will often be very limited in scope, concentrating on errors that may have been made in the lower court’s legal rulings.  Appeals must be requested in very specific terms and the filing deadlines must without fail, be strictly satisfied. Facts of the case cannot be appealed, however issues of law can be appealed.

Divorce Decree Legal Help

Once issued and finalized, a divorce decree cannot easily be changed, emphasizing the importance of considering carefully all the actions you must take during the divorce process. This is why a proven divorce lawyer can capably assist in making sure all the bases are covered before the divorce decree is finalized.

Source: LaMance, Ken. “What Is a Divorce Decree?” LegalMatch Law Library, 7 June 2018, www.legalmatch.com/law-library/article/what-is-a-divorce-decree.html.

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How To Emotionally Prepare For Divorce

How To Emotionally Prepare For Divorce

Divorce changes many aspects of your life, so careful planning and a levelheaded approach is essential. Read on for some tips to assist in making the best decisions for your future.

Have You Tried Everything?

When you look at your marriage, have you done everything within your power to salvage the relationship? The last thing you want to do is look back in the future and ask yourself if there were issues you should have addressed before proceeding down this road. The whole process, although stressful, will be easier if outstanding issues are addressed before moving forward with your life.

Move Forward With Purpose

Having tried everything and decided to go through the process of divorce, it is time to adopt an efficient and business style approach to the situation. Of course, there will be a whole gamut of emotions you will digest. But if those emotions hijack your ability to think clearly, you may wind up in situations that are not in your best interests over the long haul.  Be ready to be strong, smart and prepared and to accept the inevitable emotions that headed for you both.

Everyone Can Have Bad Days

Individuals learn from experiencing discomfort, even when the discomfort on an emotional level may be very uncomfortable. Trying to overcome or avoid these emotions in a non-beneficial way may end up posing a threat to the conclusions of your divorce as well as custodial and parenting issues as you move forward. Inevitably, a degree of suffering is part of the human experience. Acceptance of that often makes events easier to cope with.  Your spouse may also ratchet down their own emotions if they see you doing the same.

Categorization

Sometimes it is difficult not to constantly think about the pending divorce, but this is not typically productive. Let your divorce attorney handle the details.  A good idea is to categorize your time and set out a schedule to when you will deal with pending case issues. For example, you may decide after a certain time of day you will no longer engage in communication about the divorce. Allocate certain periods of time to focus on other matters such as yourself, your job, your child or children and your friends. Getting into this routine will help you remain fresh and focused when dealing with divorce issues.  Less is more; let the professionals handle your case.

Self-Care

Mind practices like meditation or a spiritual practice, if you ae so inclined may help too. It is important, above all, to live well, eat sensibly and be mindful of your need for sleep. This will help you make more balanced decisions.

Source: Law, Weinberger Divorce & Family. “5 Steps to Emotionally Prepare For Divorce.” Weinberger Divorce & Family Law Group, Weinberger Divorce & Family Law Https://Www.weinbergerlawgroup.com/Wp-Content/Uploads/2017/04/[email protected], 3 Jan. 2017, www.weinbergerlawgroup.com/blog/newjersey-law-divorce-separation/divorce-emotionally-prepare/.

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How to Ask For A Divorce

How To Ask For A Divorce

Asking for a divorce may be one of the hardest things you ever have to do, even more so if you intend on doing so in a manner that is both respectful and peaceful. But when the relationship has broken down and can no longer work, despite the efforts of all involved, it may become inevitable. True, there is no right way to go about doing this. But read on to learn how you can make this tough situation a little easier to navigate.

Preparation

Understanding the emotional state of your spouse can be very helpful. Are they blissfully unaware or maybe they feel the same way you do? Has the topic ever been raised before now? It is wise to try and estimate the most likely responses from your spouse. In these situations, a counselor or therapist who deals with couples may be helpful. They can address your emotional state and even offer words and methods to initiate the conversation. Certainly try counseling before you pull the rip cord.

Timing

Spend time thinking of the location as well as the time where this should happen as well as ensuring any children you may have are not present, so the discussion is not disturbed. Also think of their circumstances, for example if they are dealing with job and/or career stresses or are grieving the recent loss of a family member or friend, it may be best to hold off until those issues are more settled. To not do so risks their reaction being based off other external events rather than the issue at hand.

Children

There is no question a child or children may experience trauma when they see conflicting situations with their parents. A great way to get them prepared is to let them know from the outset you both can work to terminate the marriage as peacefully as possible. Showing parenting support and assuring the child or children they will not become pawns in a fight can be of great benefit.

Gentleness

If you become frustrated and angry at your spouse during the divorce discussion it is not very likely to go well. Bringing up the topic in a manner that is thoughtful with a willingness to listen is a big key into smoothing out this process. Often your spouse may not have spent much time considering divorce whereas you have spent a great deal of time before revealing your decision. So, you may have to make an allowance of time for them to comprehend what you have said to them. They may be in state of shock or denial, and may have trouble cognitively understanding what is happening in that precise moment.

Perspectives

It may well be your partner wants prolonged discussions or to investigate ways to salvage the relationship. You do not have to be in accordance with them but do listen to what they say. Being heard is very important in these circumstances.  It sets the right tone for the upcoming divorce which can save you both time, money and heartache.

Understanding

It is important to realize your partner may not want to get a divorce. This may come at them like a bolt from the blue as they have not had to time to consider the options regarding a divorce or put any thought process into the decision at all. Compassionate empathy is the key here. If they ask for a week or two before responding, give it to them.  You two have come this far, another few weeks will not matter in the end.

Responsibility

It is important to use statements containing “I” as opposed to “you”. Take responsibility for how you feel and think, instead of reflecting it on to the other person. There are bound to be many and varied emotions through this whole process but even the suggestion of placing blame is going to be very unproductive at this stage. Most states are no fault jurisdictions anyway.  If you feel you need to force an issue or a subject, it is time to back down and raise the concern at a later time.

Help

It may be a good idea to utilize the services of a counselor if you feel you need to come up with the bets possible way of asking for a divorce.  Each spouse should certainly consult with a seasoned divorce attorney ideally before divorce communications formally begin with their spouse.

Source: QuinlanHeidi, Heidi, and Heidi. “How to Ask for a Divorce Peacefully.” Best Legal Choices, 19 Dec. 2019, bestlegalchoices.com/how-to-ask-for-a-divorce-peacefully/.

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8 Reasons Men Leave Women They Love

8 Reasons Men Leave Women They Love

We all sometimes think why men decide to leave the woman they once were totally in love with. Truthfully, there can be a multitude of reasons and often there are many reasons. That said, here are some of the most popular reasons and perhaps will give one food for thought on the way to mending a relationship.

Infidelity

Somewhere between a fifth and nearly half of all marriages end in divorce because of infidelity. When a man’s spouse has been having other partners within the bond of marriage, the commitment and trust a man has left to offer can be strenuously pressured. The internet has brought people who are not married to each other emotionally closer and many consider this a form of infidelity and may be the other cause of a man to leave their spouse.

Respect

Men place a high value on feeling respected and loved and are far more likely to be committed to a relationship when they feel those qualities.  Wives frequently provide respect to virtually all of the people in their inner circles, except their husbands.  Husbands notice this.  Husbands crave daily acknowledgment and respect, wives who don’t give it, may find themselves single again.

Intimacy

When the intimacy one partner in a relationship is something they crave for and the other partner is not willing or unable to provide that emotional closeness and romantic contact, the relationship may struggle to survive.  This often drives the spouse yearning for physical intimacy into the arms of another woman.

Appreciation

A man will often go to great lengths for a woman he really loves if he feels he is being appreciated. Letting him know you realize that is a good thing! So many spouses take the other for granted, everyone eventually has their ‘limit’ on being ignored.

Mom, Not Lover

If you are always reminding him of things he needs to do, clean up the mess he leaves, question about where he is going, where he is and where has he been, he can start to see you adopting the role of a Mother towards him.  This kills romance and passion in the bedroom, and launches you onto a one way trip to dissolution.

Success

If your womanly success highlights his sense of inadequacy it may be more likely he will leave. It is a fact many men have issues with dating a woman of high achievement who may have obtained greater success than themselves.

Satisfaction

When one has an attitude of desiring financial things that are out of reach as opposed to displaying an appreciation of what is already there, it may well be that a man takes that personally. It is important to talk about the things you both appreciate from your relationship and to seek out to achieve mutual financial goals and achievements.

Source: ReichSpecializing, Kristine. “8 Reasons Men Leave Women.” Best Legal Choices, 7 Nov. 2019, bestlegalchoices.com/why-men-leave-good-women/.

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Should I Leave My Husband for Cheating?

Should I Leave My Husband for Cheating

Once you found some dubious texts from another female on their phone – they came clean about what happened when they were away for a few days. Perhaps, a friend has dropped some hints. There is no question infidelity is a very traumatic and emotional experience. Some couples rebuild trust and move forward in their relationship but that requires a very thorough examination of what happened and why. Sometimes, it is best to bring the relationship to a close.

Following infidelity, many people both find themselves feeling love for each other and they realize the value of such lobe. Afterall, we all make mistakes, correct? Statistics suggest over twenty percent of men cheat and nearly fifteen percent of women cheat as well. However, these numbers do not lessen the emotional impact of being betrayed. This damage may be a good enough reason to end the relationship.

Reason 1. Dragging it Out Of Them

If you suspected they were cheating, rebuilding trust may be a very difficult thing to do – especially if your partner has previously denied they were having a relationship with someone else. Their lies to cover up their footprints often add other problems to the emotional state of the partner who did not cheat.

Reason 2. Old Habits

A study from 2017 drew the conclusion people are three times more likely to cheat in the future if they cheated in their first relationship. Does this mean it is a habit? Certainly, if they cheated in a previous relationship and are now cheating in their current relationship – it is obviously not a good sign. If they have cheated before in their current relationship with you, it may mean the relationship has no future. It is reasonable to ask if your partner will make the same mistake again. You may want to ask them in a straight-forward manner regarding their infidelity – this gives them the opportunity to spill the beans and you can plan your future. Trust can be rebuilt over time – if both parties are committed to doing so and that is something that needs to be considered. Cheating does not need a justification, but there may be factors that influenced the decision to cheat and they need examining.

Reason 3. Shattered Trust

Is it better when the partner who has committed the infidelity comes clean and confesses what they have done or finding out by catching them in the act? Often the lying is more important then the cheating. If you had to find out through messages, emails or texts, even from face to face conversation with other people, the blow may be very hard to take indeed. Would you have not discovered had you not looked or been told? IS there something else you have not been told?

Reason 4. Not Feeling Happy With Yourself

Insecurities can suddenly rise to the surface when you discover your significant other has cheated. Questioning yourself and your virtues and behavior is not helpful. There are many reasons why the person who cheated made that decision. The truth is it has zero to do with you. They made the decision. It is possible the insecurity of your partner led them to cheat because they need to see themselves as desirable. When you are at the stage that your own view of yourself has been badly damaged – it may be for the best to move on without this relationship in your life. You may discover some qualities have come to the surface that are not the best aspects of your personality such as jealousy. In these cases, you need to take care of yourself primarily so you can heal. Explaining this to your partner may assist in lessening the impact of the insecurities you feel.

Not all relationships need to end when infidelity appears. Cheating is often a sign that something else may be not right in the relationship and you have to decide whether it is worth persevering with the relationship.

Of course, it is understandable if the relationship and the hurt you feel cannot be repaired. Without a doubt you deserve someone in your life who you can trust Communication is key and may lead to the rebuilding of trust. Sometimes professional help like a therapist who specializes in working with couples may be helpful.

Source: Strong, Rebecca. “Why You Should Consider Leaving A Partner Who Cheated – Even If You’re In Love.” Elite Daily, Elite Daily, 25 Sept. 2018, www.elitedaily.com/p/should-you-leave-a-partner-who-cheated-4-reasons-to-consider-calling-it-quits-11988151.

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