To win child custody essentially means that you are happy with your custody circumstances and the custody agreement is in the best interest of the child or children. How this happens depends on the situation. It could possibly mean that you get sole custody of your child, that you share custody with the other parent, or that the judge agrees to your proposed parenting plan, etc.
In the end, how do you win custody? You work on your own or with the other parent to create a custody agreement that meets the needs of your child. After that, you work with the other parent or on your own to get the court to agree to your plan.
To create a winning parenting plan to present in court, call Canterbury Law Group today.
Create a winning parenting plan
Your parenting plan demonstrates how you and the other parent will continue to care for your child now that you are separated or getting a divorce.
A satisfactory parenting plan has:
- A defined parenting schedule that shows when the child spends time with each parent
- Details about how the parents will make decisions for the child
- Specifics about expenses and finances
- Parenting requirements and rules about raising the child
- Any other information you may want to add
To produce a winning parenting plan, you must customize it, so it suits the needs of your child and fits your unique circumstances.
You can draw out your plan on your own, work closely with the other parent to develop it, and/or hire an attorney or legal professional to assist you.
Negotiate a plan with your child’s other parent
The best way to win custody of your child is to work with your child’s other parent to make a custody agreement both of you approve of. This helps you avoid a drawn-out, costly court battle and makes your agreement more effective, and is only beneficial for the child.
It doesn’t matter if you and the other parent disagree about custody, it is still worthwhile to try and arrange an agreement. In order to do this, you will both have to set aside personal differences and focus on what is in the best interest of the child.
Here are some recommendations to help you when meeting with the other parent:
- Prepare example parenting plans and parenting time schedules to show your ideas
- Write down the thoughts and concerns that you want to go over before you meet
- Be flexible about your parenting agreements
- Hear out the other parent’s ideas and concerns
- Set aside any personal differences with the other parent
- Think of your child when you work out your parenting agreement
- Don’t talk about divorce issues or other outside issues during the meeting
- Bring your work schedule and the child’s school schedule
- Talk to your child about what they want in the agreement (if your child is old enough)
- Seek mediation or counseling if needed
- Get enough sleep the night before you meet, maybe each bring a friend to reduce tension
- Allow multiple meetings (don’t try to discuss too much at once)
- Take a break if things get strained, you can always try again later
Record your actual custody circumstances
You may find it beneficial to track the actual time, so you know how to prepare your custody plan.
Track your actual parenting time, so you know how your actual time correlates to your scheduled time. This can help you define your custody and visitation schedule and know if the schedule is being upheld. For example, if one parent works nights and weekends, creative scheduling is going to be required to see the children during normal waking hours, when they are typically in school.
You can also keep a custody log book where you write notes about what happens during your parenting time. You can use your book to communicate with the other parent or keep it for your records.
Tracking your parenting time and keeping a log book helps you win custody by making sure your plan is the correct one for you and your child. It also helps each parent follow the plan. The log book can also be critical for “going back to court” after your original plan is in place.
Present a winning case in court
If you and your child’s other parent are incapable of coming to an agreement about custody arrangements, you will go to family court, and a judge will determine the final parenting time arrangements.
To win in family court, you must develop a parenting plan and show the judge how that plan will benefit your child. It might be a good idea to hire an attorney to come up with your plan and represent you in court. Things can and will get complicated.
You can represent yourself and still win custody, you will just need to prepare an appropriate plan and present it very well.
Attend custody mediation to win your case
If both parents cannot work out a custody agreement, you should consider going to custody mediation with a third party professional.
In custody mediation, you and the other parent will meet with an impartial third-party mediator who can help you create your agreement. The mediator will help you as you make decisions for your plan and help you work out your disagreements. The mediator is usually a retired family law judge or attorney well versed in custody issues.
Some states require that parents go to mediation first before actually going to court. You may also have the alternative of getting free or discounted mediation through your court or state. If mediation isn’t offered in your court, you can pay for mediation privately. Each parent usually pay 50% of the meditor’s fees. You can also bring your attorney to mediation.
Mediation is successful for a lot people, and if you can co-author your parenting plan in mediation, you will be happy with your plan and you both win your case.
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*This information is not intended to be legal advice. Please contact Canterbury Law Group today to learn more about your personal legal needs.