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How To Divorce a Narcissist

How To Divorce a Narcissist

A narcissist is someone with certain characteristics defining their personality. These may include a desire to be admired, the need to be seen as a good person, a need to be right and to be critical. Further, they often are charismatic but lack remorse and appear bereft of conscience. They are often controlling individuals and their values depend on the scenario they are currently in. They can be masters of emotional manipulation yet be emotionally vacuous. They refuse to take responsibility but hold grudges and have an elevated sense of importance. They often claim to be misunderstood because of their past, begrudge people their success and are disinterested in solving relationship issues.

Read on to learn more.

When one partner in a divorce is a narcissist and the other person a reasonably levelheaded individual it can be the source of great conflict. Add children into the mix and the behaviors of the narcissist can cause the breakdown of communication as the other partner launches into defense mode. To outsiders, this may appear the “reasonable” spouse is creating much of the conflict, but many do not know what it is like to live with someone with this particular personality disorder. The narcissist often has such a need to win they will stop at nothing in destroying the other person to achieve that purpose. Sometimes, the only way to make headway is to confront it head-on.

Look further at some of the traits of a narcissist when you divorce them:

  • They will attempt to retain control and influence your life
  • They may dictate how child support is spent
  • They may dictate terms of child visitation and every other aspect of coparenting
  • They may look to wreak financial, domestic, and financial abuse on you, especially if they sense you are weak, fearful, or sympathetic in any way, promoting their poor behavior

Divorce Coping Tactics

An attorney can help if they are willing to go to bat for you and support you in protecting your legal rights.

Narcissists project their own shame, guilt and fears on to you, no matter how successful you may be. This causes confusion and hostility and plays into their hands. The only aspect you can change is your response to them. To that end, your communications with them need to be careful. Be aware of their tactics and do not give them the answer they seek. Ultimately, the yare trying to make themselves feel better by casting you as the bad person.

The reality is fantasy is the world the narcissist chooses to live in. You must see them for who they are, not who they wish to be portrayed as. Every time you act in a kind way, it will be exploited. A tool a narcissist uses us to make you doubt your value. But be assured you do have self-worth and strength they do not recognize.

A narcissist is no respecter of boundaries and thinks their needs are paramount. But you can hold firm by controlling the behaviors you will allow and not permit. It is not the answer to the problem because the more you confront them, the more it plays into your hands. Communication has to be free from conflict, disrespect, and manipulation, Insist all communication is done via email.

This may not be popular, but it is worth keeping this condition in order to separate yourself from this toxic person.

Through the divorce process, friends and family may not be able to fully empathize even if they have gone through the divorce process because of the personality of your former partner. Therefore, it is critical you retain the services of a divorce attorney who comprehends the multifaceted aspects of a narcissistic personality disorder during the divorce process. A therapist may also be of great help in setting boundaries and assisting with coping mechanisms to maintain them. In the end, the more people you have on your side – the easier you will find this painful process.

 

Source: https://www.mydomaine.com/surviving-emotionally-while-divorcing-a-narcissist-1102458

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Our experienced family law attorneys will work with you to obtain the best possible outcome in your case.  Proven trial lawyers in family court, you can trust the firm to represent you fully so you can get on with your life. Call today for your initial consultation. Our family lawyers can help with divorce litigation, collaborative divorcedivorce mediationchild custodylegal guardianshippaternityprenuptial agreements, and more.

*This information is not intended to be used as legal advice. Please contact Canterbury Law Group today to learn more about your personal legal needs. 480-240-0040 or [email protected]

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Can I Get Divorced During Coronavirus?

Can I Get Divorced During Coronavirus

The coronavirus pandemic has impacted every aspect of our daily lives.  And many people may be mystified about what to do when they are considering or in the middle of a pending divorce. Courts are adapting to the new circumstances; video and online conferencing is becoming extremely popular and people can still get divorced. Read on to learn more.

Researching Divorce Options

Let us have a look at some of the ways you can communicate with your soon to be former partner.

Pro Se / Self-Represented

This is where the parties agree everything among themselves and file all the needed paperwork individually. Usually this is only done in very simple situations such as marriages less than 5 years, marriages without children or marriages where no meaningful wealth was accumulated.

Private Mediation

When divorcing and mediating, a third party agreed between the two principal parties leads communication to reach an agreement for settlement. A party may choose to retain the services of an attorney for advice and documentation review to serve both as a mediator and counsel.  Mediation is far more peaceful and typically less expensive than conventional litigation for a divorce.

Collaborative Process

A team of trained professionals works for each individual spouse including two collaboratively trained attorneys, an independent financial advisor, communications coach, adult counselor, or child specialist/advocate (if required) meet as a unified team with the two parties to develop a settlement. It is agreed litigation will not take place even when a settlement cannot be obtained.  Collaborative divorce can usually be completed within 120 days at 50% less cost compared to conventional court house litigation dissolutions.

Traditional Attorney-to-Attorney

Where two attorneys work and structure out a settlement on behalf of the parties and often try to dissuade the two parties from communication during the process of divorce.

Determining the best course of actions for you is key and you can look online and also go through reviews at state organizations specializing in mediation. Reach out to a few divorce lawyers, discuss the circumstances, and go from there.

Your Professional Team

Normally each spouse retains an attorney who has family law experience. Expense is always a factor. Similar to a primary care doctor, it is vital to feel comfortable with your divorce attorney. You may also retain a financial professional with a background in divorce who can help with financial calculations as well as a coach or counselor for psychological aspects of the process.

Financial Information

It is important to gather all of your financial details together. This would include tax returns, wage slips, investment and bank accounts, pensions, retirement plans, real estate, and business interests as well as debts like student loans, car loans, mortgages, credit card debt and such like. Much of this can be assembled online. However assessing the values of assets can be fraught with contention, so information may have to be updated or changed during the process of negotiation.

Budget

While you are mainly homeward bound, now is a good time to create a budget for your post-Decree life. This will assist in comprehending how much money you need to live on as well as assessing what will be the requirements for spousal support and support of a child or children as part and parcel of the agreement. It may well be your spending priorities have changed currently, e.g. spending less on eating out and gasoline but more on groceries and home utilities. This will have to be updated over the passage of time, so it is a good reflection of your needs and lifestyle options in seeking a fair settlement from your spouse.

Living Arrangements

Your budget may necessitate changes to your living arrangements. Real estate sales are still ongoing and oddly values are continuing to go up, but housing values may also lose value during the Coronavirus pandemic. So, having the latest real estate pricing information is key whether you are buying out your spouse, you are both selling the house, or you are looking to buy a new residence post-Decree.

Parenting

Even amicable divorce can have issues coming to grips with a viable post-Decree parenting plan. Right now, that ay have to be arranged through video and phone meetings and where children are involved, privacy may be an issue. With everyone residing under one roof, finding time that is not disturbed with your kids can be a challenge.

Logistics

The two spouses will have to decide whether to go ahead with divorce proceedings during the current pandemic. Even video conferencing may not always be possible as more and more people are having to stay at home. Once in person meetings are permissible, you will have the option of a video conference, or everyone masked up, meeting in person. Some video conferences allow break-out rooms, permitting private conversations.

The Coronavirus may be part of our lives for some time to come. If you go ahead with a divorce, you will have to be patient as some things will have to be handled differently that in the past. But with the right support, you can move forward with your life.  Most cases can still be resolved in 6 to 12 months.

Source: Tighe, Janet, and Susan Miller. “7 Tips to Smoothly End Your Marriage in the Age of Coronavirus, Where Divorce Is Harder than Ever.” MarketWatch, MarketWatch, 29 May 2020, www.marketwatch.com/story/divorce-during-the-pandemic-is-harder-than-it-already-is-heres-what-you-need-to-know-2020-05-27.

Need a Family Lawyer in Scottsdale?

Our experienced family law attorneys will work with you to obtain the best possible outcome in your case.  Proven trial lawyers in family court, you can trust the firm to represent you fully so you can get on with your life. Call today for your initial consultation. Our family lawyers can help with divorce litigation, collaborative divorcedivorce mediationchild custodylegal guardianshippaternityprenuptial agreements, and more.

*This information is not intended to be used as legal advice. Please contact Canterbury Law Group today to learn more about your personal legal needs. 480-240-0040 or [email protected]

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What Can You Not Do During A Divorce?

What Can You Not Do During A Divorce

Stress and tension are often parts of the divorce process people cope with. But however fraught the process may be, it is essential to avoid making mistakes as the process takes place. Here are some things you must avoid when navigating the divorce process.

Avoid Pregnancy!

Pregnancy adds layers of complications to the divorce process and may even impact your right to a divorce. In some states, there may be laws regarding the timeline a divorce can take place as the paternity of the child may be in dispute and until it can be established there may be no one to assign financial responsibility for the child’s support. It is true several states treat single parents identically as married ones. However, it is definitely a complication that requires careful consideration.

Changing Your Will

Just because you are granted a divorce it does not mean a will is revoked. An update to your will may be required to reflect your new circumstances. Should you become deceased before a divorce is granted and your spouse has been left zero, they may sue in probate to obtain 50% community property portion of your estate.

Collaborative Divorce And Mediation

In areas where collaborative divorce is common, it is generally regarded to be beneficial in the breakup process as issues can be addressed in a team meeting and productive manner.  In contrast to group collaboration, mediation is where a third party assists in bringing an agreement between the two parties going separate ways. Lawyers are not always required in these sessions, though their counsel can be consulted at any time as the process unfolds to ensure you are getting the optimal outcome for your situation.

Relationships With Lawyers

Do not get romantically or sexually involved with your lawyer! In some states, it is prohibited but even in states where it is permissible, you may face a charge of adultery as a consequence.  Do not mix business with pleasure, there are plenty of other viable romantic options out there.

Do Not Blame or Involve The Children!

It is essential a child or children have support through the divorce process. Give them the time and attention they require and help them focus or educational and extra-curricular activities. Over time, they will become more at ease with the new two household circumstance. Ultimately the purpose of a divorce is to relieve stress and move forward and if a child or children can see that over time, they will be able to better cope with the new situation.

Be Open To The Idea Of Therapists

A therapist can help you cope with the whole gamut of emotions associated with divorce. And it is a worthwhile idea to seek out a therapist before you start to feel emotional extremes. A therapist can offer professional help as well coping mechanisms for life as well as the divorce court. They can also help you to work out ways of becoming more independent post-Decree.

Is Waiting Until After The Holidays A Good Idea?

Holidays can be tough times and pre and post-Christmas are often the busiest time of year for divorce lawyers! Fighting a divorce case during the holiday period will only cause more stress and may damage the opportunity you have to achieve a separation that is amicable.  In an ideal world, do not commence your divorce until January.

Taxes

The house often goes to the person who is awarded primary custody of a child or children. But if you cannot afford to pay the maintenance, mortgage, taxes, and other associated costs, it may not be the ideal option.  Sometimes selling the house just makes more sense.  An alternative is to request the equal value in an investment portfolio of the community. Capital gains for single people are not protected from taxes to the same extent as they are for married people. There may also be issues with existing stock positions and it many be a better strategy to opt for freshly purchased stocks as the capital gains taxes will be less of an outgoing expense.

You Don’t Have To Settle Early

Financial security does not have to be sacrificed because you want a quick divorce process. Maintain many copies of your various financial statements so you can be on top of what assets and liabilities you have. You will need to make sure the minor children still have coverage for health insurance on an ongoing basis post-Decree. If this can be worked out between the two parties in an amicable manner, you may be able to move forward with what is known as an uncontested divorce. If this is not feasible, remember to bring all relevant financial documentation so a lawyer can make a correct assessment of your financial situation in advancing your case.

Avoid Debt Accumulation

Divorce is seldom cheap. Once you have dealt with fees from lawyers you will also have the expense of setting up a new household. Economizing and making do for now is the order of the day. Hopefully if you make wise choices now, you will emerge on the other side of the divorce with far less financial damage. Once everything is concluded, you should feel a great deal better about the situation by planning to live within your means.

Source: Zimmer, Jessica. “Top 10 Things NOT to Do When You Divorce.” Legalzoom.com, 25 Apr. 2019, www.legalzoom.com/articles/top-10-things-not-to-do-when-you-divorce.

Need a Divorce Lawyer in Scottsdale or Phoenix?

As proven legal counsel in family court, we have a network of Arizona attorneys, expert witnesses, mediators, tax specialists, estate planners, financial planners, child specialists, real property appraisers, adult and child therapists and parenting coordinators who are here for you if you ever need them. Our lawyersdivorce mediators and collaborative divorce attorneys in Scottsdale are here to make your divorce less stressful and keep you in control and the costs contained. Call today for an initial consultation at 480-240-0040 or [email protected]. Our family lawyers can also help with divorce litigation, child custodylegal guardianshippaternityprenuptial agreements, and more.

*This information is not intended to be legal advice. Please contact Canterbury Law Group today to learn more about your personal legal needs.

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How Long Does It Take To Get A Divorce If Both Parties Agree?

How Long Does It Take To Get A Divorce If Both Parties Agree

Agreeing on the issues before embarking on a divorce is the normally the quickest way to ensure swift, plain sailing for your divorce. That is why divorces that are uncontested are not only the easiest and most direct route to take but have the benefits of saving both money and time. Read on to learn more.

Depending on the state you reside in the length of time a divorce may take can vary even when the parties agree on everything. Waiting periods can be up to and including six months in some states from the initial filing of paperwork to the finalization of a divorce and to allow the other side to launch an appeal should they decide to do so. In other states the entire process can be completed in around sixty days. Generally, even in the best circumstances and depending on your location the time to complete the divorce can differ from as few as six weeks to twelve months.

There are several considerations to account for when it comes to the duration of the process:

  • Do you have a child or children together?
  • Do you both own property?
  • Do you both own assets?
  • What is the current relationship between you and your soon to be ex-spouse?
  • Was there a pre-nuptial wedding agreement?

Divorce courts are also busy and again depending on where you live there may be an extensive backlog of cases waiting to be heard that further delays the entire process. You also must meet the requirements for residency in the state where you are filing the divorce. In some states that period may be six to twelve months. So, this is vital to clarify if you are after a timely divorce process.

How Long Does It Take To Get An Uncontested Divorce In Arizona?

In Arizona it can take as little as sixty days to obtain a divorce decree (though the circumstances in which this is possible are limited as per ARS 25-329) – even so, the average time statewide for divorces that are uncontested to be resolved is 105 days with rimes ranging from ninety to one hundred and twenty days. In circumstances where the concerned parties agree on all the concerning issues, a joint agreement may be taken to the court and filed there. Their agreement can be at the same time or later if there are still some outstanding issues to be addressed. Sometimes, the parties may utilize the services of a mediator for resolution of these matters. If an agreement is reached and submitted to the courts the judge in normal circumstances will sign it in to the divorce decree at the termination point of the waiting period.

Source: Crowley, Jason, et al. “How Long Does It Take to Get Divorced.” Survive Divorce, Survive Divorce, 29 Jan. 2020, www.survivedivorce.com/how-long-does-divorce-take.

Need a Divorce Lawyer in Scottsdale or Phoenix?

As proven legal counsel in family court, we have a network of Arizona attorneys, expert witnesses, mediators, tax specialists, estate planners, financial planners, child specialists, real property appraisers, adult and child therapists and parenting coordinators who are here for you if you ever need them. Our lawyersdivorce mediators and collaborative divorce attorneys in Scottsdale are here to make your divorce less stressful and keep you in control and the costs contained. Call today for an initial consultation at 480-240-0040 or [email protected]. Our family lawyers can also help with divorce litigation, child custodylegal guardianshippaternityprenuptial agreements, and more.

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Divorce Rate And Statistics In America

Divorce Rate And Statistics In America

The divorce rate has been declining since the turn of the 1980’s. Read on to understand how factors like location, age and social media usage impact divorce statistics. We will also look at the divorce rates of much heralded celebrity marriages and see what can be learned.

Anticipated Surge

At the dawn of the 2020s more people than ever are looking at the internet to seek out options and advice when considering a divorce resulting in a globally increased rate of divorce filing. For example:

  • The United Kingdom continues to see a large rise in the number of divorces.
  • Australia is seeing requests for divorce increase by 200%.
  • Turkey has seen divorce filings increase by 400%.
  • China is setting record figures for the number of divorce cases being filed.
  • With courts closing in the US, there has been a large increase in people utilizing mediation in their divorce cases.

Divorce Statistics In the US

The idea half of marriages end in divorce was vaunted in the 1980s but research shows a decline in the rate of divorce in the ensuing decades. Not including those who get legally separated, the statistical breakdown is thus:

  • First Marriages: 42-45 percent will terminate with a divorce as the result.
  • Second Marriages: 60 percent will terminate with a divorce as the result.
  • Third Marriages: 73 percent will terminate with a divorce as the result.

Another way of viewing these statistics is:

  • 22 percent of women have been divorced at least once.
  • 21 percent of men have been divorced at least once.
  • 11 percent of women are divorced at the present time.
  • 9 percent of men are divorced at the present time.

The age breakdown of those obtaining a divorce looks thus:

  • Under 20: Women 27.6%, Men 11.7%
  • 20 – 24: Women 36.6%, Men 38.8%
  • 25 – 29: Women 16.4%, Men 22.3%
  • 30 – 34: Women 8.5%, Men 11.6%
  • 35 – 39: Women 5.1%, Men 6.5%

Facts About Divorce

  • There are nearly 2,400 divorces every single day in the United States meaning an average of $16,800 divorces each week as well as upwards of $875,000 divorces per annum.
  • Eight years is the average length of a first marriage that ends with a divorce.
  • During a first marriage, there is a twenty percent chance within the first five years the marriage may end in divorce or separation and in a ten-year time frame that percentage goes up to thirty-three.
  • Thirty years old is the average age when couples commence the divorce process.
  • Two years is the average duration of time a person considers divorce before commencing the process.
  • Around seventy-five percent of people who obtain a divorce will at some point get remarried.
  • If they choose to remarry, the average wait time is three years.
  • Love can happen again, six percent of couples report remarrying having got divorced!
  • Detailed divorce and marriage statistics ceased to be assembled by the US Government back in the mid-1990s, so the data comes from independent researchers as well as the US Census.

Divorce Stats By Region And State

  • The states with the lowest divorce rates are Iowa, Illinois, Massachusetts, Texas, and Maryland where between 1.2 and 2.6 of every 1,000 residents are divorced as of 2015.
  • The states with the highest divorce rates are Alaska, Wyoming, Oklahoma, Nevada, and Arkansas where between 4.1 and 4.8 of every 1,000 residents are divorced as of 2015.

On a national scale just over 9 out of every 1,000 US residents obtain a divorce per annum. This ranges from a low in the Northeast section of the country for 7.2 per 1,000 men and 7.5 per 1,000 women to a high in the South of 9.1 per 1,000 men and 9.2 per, 1,000 women (all per annum.) The Midwest and Western United States all have figures between 9.1 and 9.2 per 1,000 men and 9.2 and 9.8 per 1,000 women per annum obtaining a divorce.

Politically speaking, states with a greater tendency to vote Republican have higher rates of divorce than states with a greater tendency to vote for the Democrats.

What Is The Likelihood Of Divorce?

The following factors have been shown to increase the likelihood of a divorce:

  • Age disparity.
  • The more money spent on engagement rings and wedding ceremonies and parties.
  • Residing in an area with a high rate of evangelical or conservative Protestants.
  • Associations with family members or friends who have recently obtained a divorce.
  • You have a higher risk of divorce the more your co-workers are of the opposite sex.
  • The younger you move in together and get married the higher the chances of divorce.

The following factors have been shown to decrease the likelihood of a divorce:

  • If your parents are happily married, your chance of divorce reduces by around fourteen percent.
  • If you have an annual income of more than $25,000 you are less likely to get divorced.
  • If you have a baby at least seven months following your marriage the chances you will divorce goes down by twenty-four percent.
  • Your chances of divorce fall by thirteen percent if you have attended college.
  • You are less likely to get a divorce is you do not cohabitate or marry before the age of twenty-three.

Children And Divorce Statistics

  • Sixteen percent of minors are living in a “blended family” situation where they reside with a stepsibling, half-sibling or step-parent.
  • Children usually recover from the negative emotional effects of a divorce twenty-four months after the divorce process, though some take longer, and this is especially the case during divorce processed where the parents have a great deal of conflict.
  • In over eighty percent of divorce cases the mother becomes the parent the children primarily reside with.

Social Media Divorce Statistics

  • Online affairs cause one-third of divorces.
  • Facebook is the cause for twenty-five percent of couples to fight at least once every seven days.
  • Social media activity of their partner has caused at least one in seven married people to contemplate divorce.
  • Twenty percent of people fell unease in their relationship when they find something unsettling on the Facebook account of their partner.

Gray Divorce Statistics

  • Gray divorce (a term used for those getting divorced between the ages of fifty-four and sixty-four) has increased four-fold in the last three decades.
  • Thirty years ago, only ten percent of divorces were for people more than the age of fifty, but in 2010, it accounted for twenty-five percent of all divorces.
  • Nearly twenty years ago only forty-five percent of older Americans thought divorce was morally sound. That had ridden to just short of seventy percent in 2014.
  • Match.com has seen the interest of divorce increase nearly forty percent since 2014 in web traffic from users over the age of fifty-five.
  • Two-thirds of gray divorces are commenced by females.

Facts About Celebrity Divorces

  • A mere $245 million was the divorce settlement paid by Mel Gibson to his ex, Robyn, in 2009. It is generally regarded as the largest celebrity involved in divorce settlement.
  • Zsa Zsa Gabor chalked up nine marriages!
  • Britney Spears has the dubious honor of the shortest celebrity marriage! A mere fifty-six hours was the length of her relationship with Jason Alexander before they obtained an annulment.
  • Eddie Murphy and Tracey Edmonds managed two whole weeks of wedded bliss.
  • Kim Kardashian and Kris Humphries lasted seventy-two days.
  • Michael Jackson and Lisa Marie Presley kept it together for nine months.

If you have the fortune to watch the “Real Housewives” TV franchise – the overall divorce rate is over thirty-three percent with the Real Housewives of D.C. sporting a divorce rate of one hundred percent! The newest entry to the series, the Real Housewives of Dallas have yet to get going in the divorce courts are at the opposite end of the scale with zero percent. Those Real Housewives of Beverly Hills get divorced just under thirty-one percent of the time, while their compatriots in Miami manage to get divorced just under forty-three percent of the time. The Real New Jersey Housewives let the side down a little with a paltry divorce rate of just over eleven percent. But those in Orange County help out with a divorce rate approaching twenty-four percent. However, the Real Housewives of New York, Potomac, and Atlanta, back the assertion the eastern seaboard states are ample for getting a divorce with rates of fifty, fifty and sixty percent, respectively.

Source: McKinley Irvin. “32 Shocking Divorce Statistics.” McKinley Irvin, 7 Nov. 2019, www.mckinleyirvin.com/family-law-blog/2012/october/32-shocking-divorce-statistics/.

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As proven legal counsel in family court, we have a network of Arizona attorneys, expert witnesses, mediators, tax specialists, estate planners, financial planners, child specialists, real property appraisers, adult and child therapists and parenting coordinators who are here for you if you ever need them. Our lawyersdivorce mediators and collaborative divorce attorneys in Scottsdale are here to make your divorce less stressful and keep you in control and the costs contained. Call today for an initial consultation at 480-240-0040 or [email protected]. Our family lawyers can also help with divorce litigation, child custodylegal guardianshippaternityprenuptial agreements, and more.

*This information is not intended to be legal advice. Please contact Canterbury Law Group today to learn more about your personal legal needs.

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The Uncontested Divorce Process

The Uncontested Divorce Process

In Arizona you have the option for an “uncontested divorce.” Although a divorce is difficult for everyone concerned, an uncontested divorce offers the option to avoid circular arguments between the parties, a great deal of money spent and countless trips to a court. Especially, in situations when both parties can come to agreements on the outstanding issues needed to terminate the marriage. Read on to learn more.

The first order of business is to file a petition for a divorce. The forms differ depending on the county you reside in, but the Superior Court where you are going to file can be contacted for the correct forms. The party who does the filing is known as the petitioner and the other party is called the respondent. The petition needs to include the following:

  • Basic information regarding both parties and your child or children.
  • The agreements you have reached regarding debt and property.
  • Custody of the child or children.
  • Support of the child or children.
  • Visitation arrangements.

Once the petition has been filed and the payment fees made, there are two options, you can get divorced either by:

  • Divorce by default.
  • Consent decree.

Divorce By Default

Once the petition has been filed the copy of the petition must be served to the respondent. They have twenty days if they are in Arizona (thirty days if they are outside the state) to respond. If there is no response within this time limit, a default can be requested. As everything has already been agreed, the agreement will be ratified and following a sixty-day waiting period – the divorce order will be issued by the judge. The granting of the divorce by the court is known as a Default Decree of Dissolution of Marriage. The other party must be served with this decree within three days of receipt of the document. Both parties, in front of a notary, sign the consent degree, and then it must be filed at the clerk’s office.

Divorce By Consent Degree

Firstly, the papers must be filed, and the other party served as we mentioned above. Following a wait of sixty days from when the party has been served, both parties are required to jointly file a Consent Decree of Dissolution of Marriage. This sets out agreements regarding the following:

  • Basic information regarding both parties and your child or children.
  • The agreements you have reached regarding debt and property.
  • Custody of the child or children.
  • Support of the child or children.
  • Visitation arrangements.

This decree needs to be signed by both parties and witnessed by a notary and then file it at the clerk’s office. Once the judge has reviewed the document and signed it, it will become what is known as an order of the court. If both parties have had a child or children together, both parties will have to go to a parent education class once the petition has been filed but before the decree has been entered.

Source: Krause, Beth A. T. “Uncontested Divorce in Arizona.” Www.divorcenet.com, Nolo, 2 Dec. 2013, www.divorcenet.com/resources/uncontested-divorce-arizona.html.

Need a Divorce Lawyer in Scottsdale or Phoenix?

As proven legal counsel in family court, we have a network of Arizona attorneys, expert witnesses, mediators, tax specialists, estate planners, financial planners, child specialists, real property appraisers, adult and child therapists and parenting coordinators who are here for you if you ever need them. Our lawyersdivorce mediators and collaborative divorce attorneys in Scottsdale are here to make your divorce less stressful and keep you in control and the costs contained. Call today for an initial consultation at 480-240-0040 or [email protected]. Our family lawyers can also help with divorce litigation, child custodylegal guardianshippaternityprenuptial agreements, and more.

*This information is not intended to be legal advice. Please contact Canterbury Law Group today to learn more about your personal legal needs.

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Divorce Without Court Appearance

Divorce Without Court Appearance

It is possible to get a divorce without making a court appearance. Let’s start with a definition:

  • Uncontested divorce: This is where the divorce and the divorce settlement has been agreed upon by both parties.

Of course, this does not mean there may not be disagreements between the parties it simply means the parties have come to an agreement without the need of going to a court and using a judge to provide resolution to issues that are outstanding. It should be mentioned at the outset some states require you to go to a judge as part of the divorce process. But even in those circumstances if you can come to agreements, the court case can be over very quickly. Remember, both parties can resolve everything between themselves or utilize what is known as Alternative Dispute Resolution. Read on to learn more.

Issue Resolution

If both parties can take the time to list out the issues that need to be determined and tackle them together, it is often very helpful and productive. Here are some categories to consider:

  • Custody of a child or children
  • Support of a child or children
  • Spousal or alimony support
  • Debt and property division

Once this has been agreed upon, a divorce lawyer can go over everything and assist with a Property Settlement Agreement. This usually includes the terms you have stated as well as any legal clauses. Remember, each party will need their own attorney for this process.

Mediation

Both parties can work on their difference with a professionally trained mediator. When meeting with a mediator and supplying the relevant document and information, you can then meet as needed so a settlement can be determined. Usually this does not cause as much stress and the sessions are often informal and attorneys are not a requirement, unless a party insists on one being there. The cost for the mediator is usually shared between the two parties.

Collaborative Divorce Process

Essentially, this is where the parties and their attorneys take part in what can be described as “four-way conversations” so an agreement can be obtained. Attorneys often have specialized training in this area. And if any additional expertise is required, that person, must be agreed on by both parties and adopt a neutral standpoint. This option is sometimes chosen by parties who are happier with legal representation in the proceedings. But the downside is you may have to start over if an agreement cannot be determined with new attorneys as most states do not permit attorneys to represent a party further should the negotiations fail.

Arbitration

When the parties want someone else to determine issues away from the standard court process when they are unable to come to an arrangement by themselves. The role of the arbitrator is to consider the outstanding issues and makes a determination. Note: this is not an option in every state. The upside is both parties get to choose the arbitrator and you can work on setting the times and length of the sessions. On the downside, the decision made is binding and final and you normally cannot appeal. With complicated situations an arbitrator can also become an expensive proposition.

Court Appearances

Even when divorce cases have been settled, a divorce complaint or petition must still be filed with the court to formally dissolve the marriage. In most states when the divorce is a “no fault” divorce for such matters as “irreconcilable differences” you may not have to attend court. There will be some documentation that will need submitting and this is frequently found on the website of the court. As long as everything is completed properly, the judge in normal circumstances will issue a final judgement. In states where a court appearance is mandatory, once the paperwork has been filed, you can inform the court clerk the case has been settled and they normally will give you a court date sooner. You will be with the judge for around a quarter of an hour to verify the reason for the divorce and go over the agreement.

Source: Pandolfi, Joseph. “How to Divorce Without Going to Court.” Www.divorcenet.com, Nolo, 30 Nov. 2017, www.divorcenet.com/resources/how-to-divorce-without-going-to-court.html.

Source: “FAQ.” Legalzoom.com, www.legalzoom.com/knowledge/divorce/faq.

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What Is A Legal Separation?

What Is A Legal Separation?

An arrangement ordered by the court, a legal separation is when married couples live apart from each other and lead independent lives. It is a popular option when the parties concerned are considering the future of their relationship abut also want to ensure financial responsibilities and other boundaries are going to be honored by both sides. In some areas, this is a necessary step in the divorce process. Read on to learn more.

Facts To Consider

  • The court may order specific obligations in the areas of finance, visitation of a child or children as well as custody of a child or children and support for a child or children.
  • Although legally separated there may be particular benefits there are entitlements too.
  • For some people spiritual beliefs and financial reasons as well as for the wellbeing of minor aged children may be a factor in obtaining a legal separation versus a divorce.
  • A legal separation is an agreement ordered by the court where the two parties have separate lives, and this means they usually live separately.
  • Legally separated couples can sometimes remain “insured” on the other person’s health, dental and vision insurance—check with your carrier before going this route.

How Does It Work?

There are many reasons for wanting a legal separation including:

  • Religious reasons forbidding divorce, whereas legal separation allows the majority of the benefits of divorce.
  • When the marriage still has the possibility of recovery.
  • Legal separation is sometimes best for a couple with minor aged children, promoting stability.
  • The retention of retirement and health benefits.

Some couples choose this route without a court order and many are embracing informal separations and no-fault divorce cases, making legal separation in a formal sense less common than it used to be. When the separation date arrives, the party’s ability to spend money from a bank account or credit card held in both names is limited – as well as bringing in controls over vehicles and property. Each party following the separation ate becomes responsible for their own finances.

Legal Separation Benefits

Once a couple have reached their tenth wedding anniversary certain future benefits may be contended with. When deciding to separate, the legal separation agreement may keep some entitlements of benefits intact. For example, those married to members of the military must remain married for ten years to benefit from the Uniformed Services Former Spouse Protection Act. Once married for ten years, it also means you can benefit from particular social security benefits. You may be able to draw a larger sum if you can draw the benefits of the social security retirements of your former partner. Nonetheless, there are time a legal separation is preferential to divorce. The separation may be temporary whereas a divorce is a permanent condition absent remarriage. It can also be used as a “last chance saloon” to save a troubled marriage. Legal separation also has the benefit of being less costly than a divorce and to go through the process before continuing with divorce can make the whole situation for a child or children easier to endure.

Legal Separation vs Divorce

Legal separation is a legal process that allows a married couple to live apart and divide their finances while remaining married, as opposed to divorce, which is a legal process of ending a marriage. Neither may feel like a great option. Still, understanding what each means can help. Your unique situation drives whether you should choose legal separation or divorce according to BestLegalChoices.

Source:

Mitchell Grant, Julia Kagan. “What Is a Legal Separation?” Investopedia, Investopedia, 29 Jan. 2020, www.investopedia.com/terms/l/legal-separation.asp.

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What Is Spousal Maintenance?

What Is Spousal Maintenance

Spousal maintenance, alimony and spousal support are interchangeable terms describing money that a spouse has been ordered to pay to the other party following a divorce. Read on to learn more.

Spousal Maintenance, Alimony and Spousal Support

Alimony are the monies paid by one party to the other during or after the process of divorce. Once it was known only as alimony. Awarded following a court order, its purpose is to maintain living standards the parties became accustomed to during marriage – it is now more often than not referred to as spousal support or spousal maintenance.

Alimony (Temporary)

This is alimony for a specific time. For example, if the divorce causes a party suffering from financial hardship, temporary alimony may be awarded until the party suffering the economic hardship can recover from a financial standpoint. Temporary alimony differs on its length depending on the state or jurisdiction you reside in.

Alimony (Permanent)

This is alimony to be paid until the one making the payments passes away or the party receiving the payments decides to remarry. In some cases, remarriage does not prevent alimony from being paid. For example, if the recipient is unable to work because of disability, the courts may decide the alimony is to be ongoing even if they live with or get married to a third party. However, alimony is non-taxable to the recipient party.

Alimony (Rehabilatative)

This may be awarded when a spouse needs help with college expenses or job training so they may return to a career (or indeed, initiate a career) following the divorce process. Thus, allowing a formerly dependent spouse to obtain the skills needed to assist them in financial independence.  These maintenance awards can range from 1 to 5 years typically.

Other Considerations

Every state has its own laws regarding spousal maintenance (or however the state refers to it as) but it is worth keeping in mind that individual judges (not a jury) have the right to use their discretion in a judicial manner when they determine such issues. Often, they consider the following:

  • Will earning power of a party be adversely impacted because they have a child or children to raise.
  • The contribution in the role of a homemaker the party may have made in the career of the other spouse.
  • The physical, emotional and mental well-being and age of each party.
  • The earning potential of both parties.
  • The duration of the marriage.  Marriages under 7 years usually do not even qualify for alimony and marriages of 30 years or more can sometimes generate a lifetime alimony award.

Add in those factors and others they judge may consider all factor in to how much will have to be paid. It is always a smart idea to address spousal maintenance issues during the settlement for the divorce. This offers the judge less power and leaves control in the hands of the two parties concerned insofar it was privately  arranged.

In Arizona

In Arizona, when a party is seeking maintenance from the other one of four things must be proven for them to be awarded financial maintenance.

  • The length of marriage was such the party is too great an age to be expected to become self-funding or to be able to work.
  • As the custodian of a child or children at a young age, the party should not be expected to work, and the spouse contributed to the education of the other party.
  • Appropriate employment to become self-sufficient is not available to the party.
  • The party does not have sufficient property to meet their needs.

Source: Meyer, Cathy. “The Different Types of Alimony, Spousal Support, and Spousal Maintenance.” LiveAbout, LiveAbout, 11 Mar. 2018, www.liveabout.com/the-different-types-of-alimony-spousal-support-and-spousal-maintenance-1102807.

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Divorce Certificate vs Divorce Decree – What is the Difference?

Divorce Certificate vs Divorce Decree – What is the Difference

Divorce documents can be confusing but every document you will read is important. For example, a court issues a “divorce decree” but your “divorce certificate” is issued elsewhere. Read on to learn more.

Divorce Decrees

A document originating from the court and is the final judgment in your divorce is known as a divorce decree. Information contained includes things like child support, spousal support, property division, visitation, custody and other relevant information to your particular situation. They are normally very comprehensive documents containing all the pertinent and agreed-upon information for your situation including the laying-out of any financial obligations the parties will have. A divorce decree may only be issued by a court – it must be obeyed by both parties and represents the judge’s legal decision.

If you elected to settle your case, the settlement will contain all the terms and conditions. It still represents the final judgement and is indicative of the fact the parties did not use the input of a court. This takes matters away from the judge. In cases, where the settlement is very one-sided, a judge may become involved to work on the settlement terms.

Getting A Divorce Decree Copy

Obtaining a certified copy of the divorce decree can normally be obtained the court clerks office. However, some locations place them in the office of the county clerk. In normal circumstances the divorce decree can only be obtained by their parties involved or their legal representation.  Once the divorce decree has been obtained, you will need to ensure both parties are obeying the terms of the decree. You will also want to make sure everyone is meeting their financial obligations. Once you have the divorce decree here is what you need to do:

  • Ensure the accuracy of the decree
  • If you have questions, speak to your attorney
  • Appeal immediately if following a trial, you are not satisfied with the decision of the judge
  • Change the terms of your will
  • Update your insurance policies with beneficiaries
  • Ensure the school of your child or children has updated information for who to contact in the event of an emergency
  • If you have a power of attorney, ensure it is changed
  • Ensure all financial accounts are only in your name
  • Change or cancel debit and credit cards
  • If the other party is violating the terms of the decree, bring them back to court
  • If child support or spousal support needs to be updated, bring the case back to the court.

Divorce Certificates

This is not the same as a divorce decree. It is a certificate issued by the bureau of vital statistics or the health department of the state you live in. This document states:

  • The fact you are divorced
  • The names of both parties
  • The date and place of the divorce

A divorce certificate may be used for obtaining a change of name, evidence of a divorce, obtaining a visa for travel, obtaining a passport, to show you are no longer marries for the purpose of inheritance, to get married and any situation when you need to show evidence of your divorce.

Source: “Divorce Decree vs. Divorce Certificate – What’s the Difference?” Legalzoom.com, 26 Sept. 2019, www.legalzoom.com/articles/divorce-decree-vs-divorce-certificate-whats-the-difference.

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